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Dealing with difficult people

Takes courage.  Courage is a process not an achievement.  My fears are not there to hold me back but keep me safe.  However sometimes they are there for no reason except a programmed response.

Other people do not make me feel a certain way, rather it is my response to those situations or people that make me feel as negatively.

So far day 2 (yesterday)was challenging. I was unable to enact my new mindset I had learned.  Today my wife and I are taking our eldest to London to see the Lion King at an autism friendly showing.  He loved it last time.

With iPad, snacks, a change of clothes for our son and nappies we are on the train.  He looks so excited playing Lion King music on his iPad. 

My dad and step mum are looking after our other two children.  Yay I feel so happy to spend the day with our eldest. An exciting adventure feels like a day off.

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