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The need to justify myself

Feeling the need to Justify myself

Everyday I feel anxious about what others are thinking, what I am thinking and worry others can see what I am thinking  from my body language. To make myself feel less anxious I alter my behaviour, (e.g. don't make eye contact or talk too much)  

In such situations I worry others are looking down on me.  I try to find a connection with the other person and try to justify why I am worth talking too and not abused anymore. 

Does reduce my anxiety?
No, I then worry I have said toi much, they think I am stupid etc.   The truth is I don't need to justify myself to anyone. We are all equal regardless of what material assets we have, where we live or our ethnic background etc. Above all else we are all human beings. 

Stop Justifying Myself
My therspist suggested that I am fight or flight mode.  

One solution when anxious, hold my breath for 20 seconds. It will allow me to think more clearly and slow down my breathing. 

So far this has helped a twice this week.  The rest of the time I have gone back to justifying myself. 

It's ok because I cannot change the behaviours straightaway.  This is a long term goal. If I revert back to old habits be kind to myself and try again next time. 

It's ok to go back to our safety behaviours sometimes.  Don't beat yourself up, you are amazing. 
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