New mind/ new beginning

Best Ways to Improve Shoulder Pain In middle aged people, the majority of shoulder pains are caused by tendons in the shoulder known as the rotator cuff.  Regardless of how old you are, management of shoulder pain is the same.  You might think rest is the best way to manage this pain, the opposite is true.  Joints like the shoulder are meant to move,  if you don't move the shoulder it will become more painful when you do want to move it.  1) Take pain relief as required. 2) Perform gentle shoulder exercises.  3) Stop if the pain worsens or gets no better after a few days and seek medical advice.  4) If you are unsure whether you should be performing any shoulder exercise, consult your doctor or qualified medical practitioner.  The Chartered Society of Physiotherapy has some useful exercise videos for shoulder pain.   Red flag:  Seek medical advice from your doctor if you notice any of the following symptoms: Swelling around the shoulder....

Do you ever worry? Does anxiety seem to hold you back? Well this article is here to help.  Now sit back and we'll get started with 5 things you can do take control back.  Our brains are wired to keep us safe.  Sometimes these mechanisms designed to keep us from harm when we were living in caves, fighting off wild animals can worry us for little reason.   When we start to worry about something our brain goes into what we call fight or flight mode.  In other words it prepares us to fight off an attacker or flee.  Whether there is a physical threat or an imagined one, the brain cannot tell the difference.  The brain diverts blood flow from non-essential organs to ones that will help while we prepare to flee.  So you might experience difficulty in thinking clearly and feeling nauseas.  20 Second breath hold When this happens we cannot think straight.  At this point holding your breath for 20 seconds can help to clear your mind.  Tr...

 Why do I always put others feelings first? What about me?  Half the time I think I am doing them a favour but they don't like.  I end up feeling upset with myself and the people I try to please aren't pleased anyway. So why do I always try to please them. What about me? If I start by trying to please myself first then at least one person is happy.  Like the type of music I play I love classical music when I need to relax my senses and get creative.  But I assume my passengers hate it.  I edit my playlist for them ahh Neil Diamond noooo! Move onto the Bee Gees, the Beatles or Rolling Stones.  Yes they'll like that I think.  But what if they don't?  What if they don't care. What then.  I am the unhappy one, yes me!  Don't I deserve to be happy just once?  My therapist said 'it is not your job to provide happiness for other people.' Only they can do that.  This thought really has hurt me but the worst thing is I can't stop p...

The pandemic has rocked and turned our world upside down.  During this time I have been working in different fields to gain a wide breadth of skills that I can offer employers and clients. That said I have started my business " Dream it to be it Copywriting and Content writing services"  My aim is to make the science behind some depression, anxiety and other conditions understandable and accessible to everyone regardless of their background.   Please take a look by going to  www.dreamittobeit.com Parts of my site are still under construction so I apologise for it not being completely polished.  I hope to be able to serve some of you there.  I will of course still keep this blog going.  So keep reading and commenting. Love to you all 

Today is your day!   Whatever you dream of, you can achieve it!   Just reach for it.  You will succeed more than you ever imagined.  Yes some doors will close but I guarantee others will open.   Don't compare Comparing ourselves to others always leads us to feelings of inadequacy.  This is your race.  The only one you are competing against is you.  Over the years I have learnt that my harshest critic is me.   I tend to hold myself back because I fear what others will think or say.   Experiment Thinking about my last blog, is it a burglar or a cat? (The battle within) My fears might not be realized.   What if everything goes right? What if I get that promotion?  Isn't it worth a gamble?  Well I think it is. In my post Jump before you are ready  I talk about the importance of investing in yourself. (Be it a little exercise or whatever)  Fear (anxiety) is ok unless it con...

What you will find in this article: The importance of categorising thoughts  (Is it a thought or emotion?)  Is it a burglar or simply a cat? Focusing inwards you may miss what is going on.  You are not alone.  A difficult day - a feeling followed by a negative thought.  It is not what happens to us that matters but how we deal with it.  My first thought was "I can't do this." "I am rubbish."   Then the feeling of butterflies in my stomach.  Normally I would rumourate, my thoughts and mood would deteriorate.   However this time after my CBT session I tried to slow my breathing, so held my breath for 20 seconds.  This redirected blood flow back to my brain so I could think clearly.   In fight or flight mode we are unable to think clearly as our blood supply to the brain is reduced.  It is re-directed towards the arms and legs, so we can get ready to fight or run.   Is it a thought?  Identifying if my...

Feeling the need to Justify myself Everyday I feel anxious about what others are thinking, what I am thinking and worry others can see what I am thinking  from my body language. To make myself feel less anxious I alter my behaviour, (e.g. don't make eye contact or talk too much)   In such situations I worry others are looking down on me.  I try to find a connection with the other person and try to justify why I am worth talking too and not abused anymore.  Does reduce my anxiety? No, I then worry I have said toi much, they think I am stupid etc.   The truth is I don't need to justify myself to anyone. We are all equal regardless of what material assets we have, where we live or our ethnic background etc. Above all else we are all human beings.  Stop Justifying Myself My therspist suggested that I am fight or flight mode.   One solution when anxious, hold my breath for 20 seconds. It will allow me to think more clearly and slow down my br...